This article by Gemma Hartley has made the rounds in recent weeks. For good reason! In it, she well articulates the frustration a lot of women feel about their roles in our homes. In an age where gender equality is something so many claim to uphold, there still exists an unbalanced distribution of what she terms “emotional labor”.

“That’s the point,” I said, now in tears, “I don’t want to have to ask.”

Hartley does such a fantastic job at spelling out a complex issue in a way we (both genders) can understand. As a family of 6 who have spent some time homeschooling, this is a subject my wife and I have discussed at length in our marriage. Like the author’s spouse, I’ve always been willing to help.

But it’s being proactive and owning situations and thinking ahead that is where we men need to step up.